Today is Grandma Phyllis' 84th birthday.
A year ago, I wouldn't have thought that she'd have made it to this day. You see, since she's lived here (20 months) she's been hospitalized several times, had pneumonia once or twice, broken some bones, and been found by neighbors down the street a few times. And yet today, on her 84th birthday, aside from some dementia and a slight case of diabetes, she's totally healthy and strong.
Now some people may think we're nuts for inviting a totally dependent elderly person into our home when we already had 2 (and now 3!) kids and a crazy dog. I don't disagree. We are nuts. But in our hearts, crazy as they may be, we believe that families should take care of one another.
So we do. And I'm not gonna lie and say that it's easy. It's the hardest thing we've ever done.
But then we see Emma exhibiting compassion (something that I totally lack) and guiding Grandma to the table or giving her hugs or encouraging her. Or we see Grady checking up on Grandma and making sure she's where she's supposed to be. Or we see Grandma's face when she's sitting on the couch singing along to a Bible Songs dvd with three of her great-grandkids. And that's how we know that we're doing what we're supposed to be doing. Our lives are crazier and more hectic- yes; but they are also richer and fuller and more compassionate and less self-centered. And our kids are learning, right along with us, the importance of serving others and being hospitable and generous.
And so really, even though it's inconvenient and often unpleasant and it requires so much more of us than we would like to give, we consider it a blessing to have her in our home and are so thankful to have her as a part of our family.
Happy 84th birthday Grandma Phyllis.... and many more :)
A year ago, I wouldn't have thought that she'd have made it to this day. You see, since she's lived here (20 months) she's been hospitalized several times, had pneumonia once or twice, broken some bones, and been found by neighbors down the street a few times. And yet today, on her 84th birthday, aside from some dementia and a slight case of diabetes, she's totally healthy and strong.
Now some people may think we're nuts for inviting a totally dependent elderly person into our home when we already had 2 (and now 3!) kids and a crazy dog. I don't disagree. We are nuts. But in our hearts, crazy as they may be, we believe that families should take care of one another.
So we do. And I'm not gonna lie and say that it's easy. It's the hardest thing we've ever done.
But then we see Emma exhibiting compassion (something that I totally lack) and guiding Grandma to the table or giving her hugs or encouraging her. Or we see Grady checking up on Grandma and making sure she's where she's supposed to be. Or we see Grandma's face when she's sitting on the couch singing along to a Bible Songs dvd with three of her great-grandkids. And that's how we know that we're doing what we're supposed to be doing. Our lives are crazier and more hectic- yes; but they are also richer and fuller and more compassionate and less self-centered. And our kids are learning, right along with us, the importance of serving others and being hospitable and generous.
And so really, even though it's inconvenient and often unpleasant and it requires so much more of us than we would like to give, we consider it a blessing to have her in our home and are so thankful to have her as a part of our family.
Happy 84th birthday Grandma Phyllis.... and many more :)